Dating is a numbers game! Two girls, same situation, different outcomes.
You miss 100% of the shots you don't take - Wayne Gretzky. What does Wayne Gretzky have to do with dating? Apparently everything! I'm sure you have heard this a million times "be open minded" "give it a chance" but let me tell you a true story about two girls at our FFL event where nothing rings truer than these obnoxious sayings you've heard from your friends countless times. Here is the story of two girls, same situation, different outcomes.
Girl #1 attended one of our intimate events, I had seated her next to a gentleman that fit her profile, let's call him Grégoire. They had a great time, I saw them conversing with an equal exchange. It's usually a bad sign when one person is talking and the other isn't. At the end of the night, I reviewed all the match forms and I was surprised to see that she did not select Grégoire. In fact, she liked another guy who did not match her profile at all. Grégoire did like Girl #1. So I wrote to her and explained that Grégoire showed interest in her and I noticed their positive exchange, moreover they had similar match forms which is a good sign, and I asked if she was willing to be matched with him. Her answer was "sure why not". Without any hesitation, I shared their contact information.
Girl #2 was at another event we hosted, she was seated next to a guy where she had a good connection, lots of laugh, and an overall great evening. When I received the match forms that night I noticed that the guy had selected her and only her but I had not received a form from Girl #2. I waited until the next day to send an email and I informed her that she had received many likes and if she was interested in completing the form. Her answer to me was that she did not find anyone she was interested in but that she had a great night nonetheless. I was shocked that she did not even consider this guy because she spent most of the evening with him. He was a great catch, in fact he is the person who received the most likes at our event.
Here is the difference between Girl #1 and Girl #2, Girl#1 has a 50% chance at a successful romance, it may or may not work out, the odds are 50/50. Girl #2 has a 0% chance at a successful romance because she didn't even give it shot. They had a great time at dinner, therefore a date together can't be that bad. I've been on disaster dates and when you've met someone before your date the odds of it being a disaster are practically non-existent. With these stats, do you see why dating is a numbers game?
Finally, the real takeaway is whether it works out or not, Girl #1 has a chance at something real, while Girl #2 closed the door before anything could even begin. Sometimes, all it takes is one evening, one conversation, one "why not" to shift the odds in your favour. So why not make the odds work for you? And who knows? Maybe Girl #1 and Grégoire are now on their third date, or maybe they decided to part ways after our event. The point is to take a shot because if you don’t, you’ll never know what you’ve missed.
I hope to see you at our next event or better yet in a relationship with someone you met at FFL.
Sincerely,
Jenn
